5 Reasons To Not Rush Through Your Divorce

Article written on September 11, 2023 by Christine Kerian, an experienced mediation lawyer and the principal of Harmony Family Law Mediation Group in Los Angeles, CA.


When couples are going through a break up and trying to “uncouple” or divorce, a common desire is to “be done” and “get it over with” as quickly as possible. But the reality is that divorce can be a legally, financially and emotionally complicated process.

While processes such as mediation and collaborative divorce are usually more efficient and can take less time, it is important to take the time to carefully consider and evaluate all the details in order to make better informed decisions while navigating through your divorce process.

Below are 5 of the top benefits of not rushing through your divorce process.

1. Emotional Recovery and Healing

Divorce can be a challenging and emotionally draining process, which is why it is important to take the time to process your feelings to assist you to heal and move on past the initial turmoil of the end of your marriage.

Rushing through the process may not afford you the time and opportunity to address your feelings and emotional triggers associated with the end of your marriage which can make it harder to make informed decisions and to move on and make a “fresh start.” Taking the time to address the emotional aspects of your divorce will ultimately result in a well informed and more satisfying outcome.

2. Financial Stability

The financial aspects of a divorce can cause a great deal of anxiety and stress. Trying to rush through the divorce process can lead to careless and uninformed financial decisions which may not be in your best interest and have negative consequences in the future.

Taking the time to carefully consider your financial circumstances will help you make educated and informed decisions which will provide a better outlook and more sustainable financial future.

3. Wiser and more Informed Decision Making

When you try to get through your divorce quickly, certain triggers may lead you to make hasty and irrational decisions based upon emotion rather than information and knowledge. It is important to take your time and evaluate the details and all of your options.

Putting in the time and thought in evaluating and considering various options will allow you to avoid critical mistakes that may be difficult to correct and which will help you make better informed decisions that will benefit you in the future.

4. Minimized Conflict

During a divorce, emotions are on the rise and there is a great deal of anxiety. When you try to rush through the divorce process, tensions may escalate further and create more conflict. By taking the necessary time to work through all issues carefully and thoroughly, you and your spouse can avoid costly and drawn out court hearings and legal battles.

Taking the time to actively listen and engage in effective communication with your spouse about issues in a calm and constructive manner can help minimize the overall conflict and make getting through the divorce process smoother.

5. More Effective Co-Parenting

When you have minor children involved in a divorce, it is important to take the time to work out the details of an effective co-parenting plan with your spouse in order to help promote a better co-parenting relationship. When you take the time and work together with your co-parent to create a parenting arrangement that is in the best interest of the children, you can establish the foundation for a healthier and stronger co-parenting relationship, as well as a better outcome for the future.

In summary, despite the emotional, legal and financial challenges involved when going through a divorce, there are significant benefits when you avoid rushing through the divorce process and take the time to fully consider all the details and options which can help ensure a more positive, respectful, and balanced outcome.

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